Abuse comes in many many forms. Bullying, verbal, sexual, physical. Why is it happening? And why are we not fighting back? I was talking to a friend about sexual abuse trying to get a perspective from someone who has actually been through it. I asked her why she didn’t scream or kick or do something. She said simply because of guilt. That makes me think about my own experience. I was verbally abused in middle school and I remember feeling the same way: Guilty. This must have been my fault. Then there are those who merely let it happen because they refuse to stand up for themselves. But why?
All I can think to say is learning to stand up for yourself isn’t an easy thing, because you either feel guilty, want to be nice or are scared, but this is something that as humans we need to learn. Especially women. If a man is doing something to you that you did not ask for or want etc. You run, you kick, scream, do something! You can’t wait for help to come we have to be our own strength.
To often I see girls who let their boyfriends push them around, put them down, take advantage. That’s where you have to have inner strength and self- respect and say I deserve more than this. If you live to please others you’ll never learn to be happy yourself.
I think a good tip for this kinda thing is that if abuse happens to you by someone, you go tell someone and then never go back to that place or person again. You get a ride with someone and they violate you, you don’t get in that car again.
Why do we let this happen to us??
Someone breaks you down, your self- esteem, self- respect, and you no longer feel worthy, somehow you deserve the abuse. BUT YOU DON’T! its not true! ITS A LIE!
stand up for yourself! and if your friend is going through abuse support them and encourage them to DO SOMETHING!
I have no idea where I was going with this blog. But that’s what it is a blog. Finding things out about people and what they experience from this school has shaken me to the core like my racism blog I needed to rant because there’s truth in these issues and they need to be confronted!
I always found the guilt thing weird. When I was going 4 counciling afte being rapped she told me it wasn’t my fault and I felt weird cuz I knew it wasn’t…I donno
And it’s also really scary to fight back. In grade 9 I got beat up a fair bit and never said anything. Talking to someone is really hard… I knew I should but I never did… Don’t make my mistake if anyone is going through stuff like that.
I agree wholeheartedly, Fight back! Why the hell would people just let it happen? I really don’t understand, it’s better than repressing everything. For the simple fact that you aren’t doing what they are makes you a better person than the people who are abusing you.
You know, if people wouldnt be so FRICKIN MEAN ALL THE TIME! we wouldnt ahve this problem in the first place. it’s definitely a big issue though, and i agree, people have to fight back! and we need to do it together. it’s like in the movie a bugs life. the ants were constantly being pushed around by the grasshoppers until Flick(the main ant guy.. i think thats his name) decides to stand up and fight back. by himself he’s weak, but then the ants all stand together.. they are stronger than the grasshoppers.